Jade Joddle’s Funeral

Paying respects to the old Jade Joddle and remembering her with a video tribute…


P.S. For those of you who may be concerned, this video is about a symbolic death. I am very much alive so don’t worry.


Post updated 28/05/2017 — Message of condolence from Jan B.J. in The Netherlands:

Dear survivors of Jade Joddle, This morning before I left my house I make a small donation for getting her health back on track. When I came back at home this evening I saw her funeral ceremony on you tube. I can’t believe this! I can’t believe this! She left us! This is not possible! This is for myself and many many other people a deep deep tragedy. She was so pure and honest. Every time I was happy when she had made a new video! She was a pioneer and took her job more then serious. I will ask you if you be able to buy with this money a few flowers that Jade most loved. Thank you so much for that. Could you also send my the address of the cemetery so that I can visit her grave next time when I’m in London. Dear Jade thank you so much for everything you learn me! Thank you! Thank you! I miss you!!! Rest in peace BJ I wish you all much stength with this enormous loss.

HmmEnglish! – Does This Remind You of Something?

Here’s a comparison of my YouTube channel branding to the branding of mmmEnglish. My branding has been in place for 3 years, one year before mmmEnglish even began.

Do you notice anything similar in the facial expressions and triangles in the background??? :p

This is how the YouTube copycats work: they pick little pieces here and there and piece by piece they steal your brand identity as they attempt to take you over. They even go on to make courses about getting ‘clear accents’, because of course, they have no original ideas. They can’t make anything new, only remake what has been made before. Although, I don’t really get what ‘mmm’ has to do with speaking clearly and confidently; it’s a sexual noise. She definitely did not copy the ‘mmm’ part from me, I would never choose that. Never. For her I would have choosen ‘ewwEnglish’.

YouTube: The Vile Cesspit

When I got on to YouTube 5 years ago, it was not cool. Maybe if you played computer games or did beauty, then perhaps, but definitely not if you were teaching English. All people ever used to say to me was, ‘Why don’t you teach in a normal school? / Why are you doing that? / You should do a PGSE,’ (a PGCE is a formal qualification to teach in a proper school.

Now people roll out the red carpet for YouTubers because it’s trendy and thousands upon thousands get on board every day. If you’ve got the right connections, The Times will even make a feature on you for being such an ‘innovative’ and ‘entrepreneurial’ English teacher. Of course, the feature won’t be about learning English because nobody cares about teaching English in England, but if the focus is about making money and your marketing skills, then it’s big headlines and ‘READ ALL ABOUT IT!’

What I want to get off my chest is how backstabbing the online world is. When I was a newb, I didn’t understand this and I willingly helped everyone, to my detriment. I was also into new age thinking and believed that when you help others, the world turns and the universe pays you back in kind. Well, experience taught me some rude awakenings regarding that. It taught me that predators will suck you dry unless you apply discernment regarding who you collaborate or share your knowledge with.

First I realised that people have a screen character which is not who they are in real life. Many of them play it as if they are lovely and really open to collaborate and share knowledge with you, but in reality that’s true only when you do something that benefits them. If you ask for a tiny, tiny something in return, their mask slips as you find out who you’re really dealing with–a ruthless predator. They like it all onesided, with everything going in the direction of their pocket.

During my time in the online world I’ve had some other side businesses. Therefore I know what I’m saying doesn’t only apply to the genre of teaching English. I would say that 95 percent of the people online I’ve ever dealt with in terms of collaboration have the predator aspect behind their mask. Everyone pretends they are best buddies but most of them will eat you for lunch the moment you turn your back.

The bigger somebody gets, the more warped they can become. This is because their fame makes them feel godlike.

Maybe of I wasn’t an introvert, I’d be able to schmooze and play the game, so I could climb the greasy pole faster. But I just can’t do it. I won’t and I can’t. Part of the appeal of working for myself on YouTube was to get far away from office politics and the scheming world of dog eat dog. Only later did I find out that the online world was exactly the same, only the masks people wear are thicker and harder to see at first.

But that said, there is still hope. I do very well from the online relationships I have built among the trustworthy few I’ve had the luck and privilege to connect with. I definitely don’t believe in ‘the more, the merrier’ when it comes to either creativity or business. To any introverts out there, I would say that one good online relationship counts for more than a million more false, backstabbing ones: choose your associates wisely and never give too much before you have tested the waters.

Updated Thoughts on Mutism

I mainly experience mutism when in a group conversation or when overwhelmed in a foreign language speaking environment. There’s also a third, less predictable way that I become mute and that is to do with certain people. From the first moment when I encounter one of these people, I’m either completely mute or can only say basic words such as ‘hi,’ ‘goodbye’, and ‘thanks.’ Even saying simple words such as these requires a lot of forcing of myself. Maybe it doesn’t sound like such a bit deal, but it also comes with a physical feeling of being closed down and being unable to break through it.

My mutism doesn’t happen only with strangers. It can also be people I’ve known a long time. With these people, I’m no longer 100 percent mute as I was when I was a child. Now, if I need to say something to them I can force the words (in an English-speaking environment, though much harder in a second language). What I say will not be conversational but can include things such as passing on a message or responding to a question. However, I prefer not to speak to or around these people at all.

I had some realisations regarding my mutism which I will now share. What I have to say goes against what I always hoped for regarding my mutism, which was to overcome it eventually and to be able to express myself to everybody. What I realised instead was that when I go mute, my mutism is telling me not to express myself fully in that situation or with that person. It’s a physiological response that shuts down my speech so that I can’t talk openly. This is useful because speaking openly is something I can later regret, for example, if I speak openly with a person who is not to be trusted. My mutism doesn’t catch all the people who are not to be trusted, but at least it points out some of them to me.

What I realised was that my mutism keeps me safe. It’s often not safe to express oneself openly around particular people or when in a group, and mutism shows me when this is the case because I can’t talk. There are many reasons a situation might not be safe to express oneself, such as the people you are with are intolerant (in terms of religion, lifestyle or politics) or think very differently to you in other some way. Often it’s not worth arguing or disagreeing with these kinds of people. Silence is golden.

Sometimes the act of speaking isn’t dangerous so you could theoretically talk, but it’s still not worth it. Not expressing oneself in this circumstance is a case of not casting your pearls before swine. Some people have no interest in knowing who you really are or what you really think; they can only accept you or like you if you act and think exactly as they do. I realised that with these people, being myself and expressing myself as I am is wasted on them; it generally only leads to conflict and them trying to change me. I don’t need to express myself around these people.

At the same time, I know that the mutism is something going on inside me, that it’s my responsibility, and that nobody is forcing it to happen to me no matter how severe of an asshole another person might be. When I used to get panic attacks from experiencing mutism, I behaved very badly and rudely. I don’t think that’s acceptable and in the future that is something I will change. All it takes is to realise that I don’t need to express myself openly in any situation where my mutism is triggered; this takes much of the stress away. Secondly, I can say the one word replies or as much as I can manage, and I should try as hard as I can to do this for people as it is more polite than saying nothing at all. And lastly, to be aware that this is my life and I can shape it in ways so that I can be around people I can express myself openly with. This doesn’t mean that I have to avoid everyone that I experience mutism with, but I think that contact with these kinds of people should be limited, otherwise for me there’s nothing ‘social’ about it, it’s more like punishment.