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Building Your Foundation

There is a necessary foundation that you need to build in order to be able to speak well. So many people (native speakers AND second language speakers of English) are missing this foundation because they were never taught properly or supported. In this episode of English Jade I reveal the foundation you need to become a good speaker. Warning: It’s not what you expect! And don’t worry, even if you lack this foundation, I’m going to fill in the gaps in your knowledge.


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All the Uses of ‘From’

‘FROM’ is such a small, common word in English, but it has so many different uses. Watch this to make sure you don’t get your prepositions mixed up.

Is Your Voice Toxic? And What to Do About It…

Toxic voices are extremely common. When a voice is toxic, it is draining to hear or listen to. The draining influence of a toxic voice affects all people within earshot by creating tension and spreading a low mood. However, only sensitive people can directly feel the icky, draining quality of the toxic voice in the moment that it is speaking.

Sensitives are best advised to avoid or disengage from conversations with people who have toxic voices. When sensitives have good boundaries, this happens naturally, as the sensitive will not want to engage in any kind of prolonged conversation with the toxic voice. Or, if they must interact occasionally, for example because the person with the toxic voice is a relative or colleague, then the sensitive learns to disengage from ‘draining conversations,’ which only encourage the person with the toxic voice to offload on them and to drain.

When I’m out in the real world, for example in a coffee shop, and I encounter a draining voice, my attitude towards that person is reserved. The reason for this is to keep my distance and to prevent any sense of familiarity from building up between us. While toxic voices cannot be avoided out in the real world, it is possible to prevent such a person from seeking out your attention in possible future encounters. The last thing you want to do is to give the draining voice your full attention. However, if the draining voice belongs to someone you care about, you may DECIDE to give them attention from time to time as a form of love. But this kind of sacrifice is not owed to strangers.

All voices are draining sometimes. However, a toxic voice is always draining.

All people are negative sometimes. Whereas, a toxic voice is negative about everything all the time.

It is not possible to change someone you know if you identify him or her as having a toxic voice. However, it is possible to detoxify your own voice. This comes down to cleansing yourself from negativity and detoxifying yourself. Note: I’m not advocating that you pretend to live in a ‘positive bubble’, merely that you find a healthy balance in which you can see the good in life, as well as the bad.


Here follow some practical things you can do to detoxify yourself and your voice:

  • Take a break from any kind of news (30 days is a good starting point)
  • Take a course of detoxifying supplements
  • Take supplements for candida and reduce sugars and processed foods in your diet
  • Take a nightly bath and scrub your skin. Soak long enough until the top layer of your skin rubs off
  • Don’t give in to the lure of toxic conversations: disengage, avoid, or label it a ‘draining conversation’. Only when you are healthier and your energy is better can you handle a little negativity now and then.
  • Leave social media
  • Listen to uplifting music
  • Walk in nature, especially in forests or woods
  • Train yourself to notice and appreciate the small, beautiful things or moments in everyday life. For example, the sight of a cute baby. These things are your food.
  • End friendships or slowly detach from spending time with people who moan and complain all the time
  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take action

Incompetent Communicators

The quality of your life reflects the quality of your communication, and in particular, your speech. When I go out into the real world I am often struck by how poorly people are able to communicate and express themselves. The general standard of speaking I hear around me is low and stunted. I would go further to say that the quality of these people’s lives is low and stunted, as symbolised by their inability to communicate. They are very much used to being incompetent communicators, AND, it seems, have no desire to change that.

Signs of Incompetent Communication

Inability to Listen — I regularly encounter people who have no listening skills. They can’t follow the thread of a conversation. Instead, they talk over people and change the subject. A person who does this is UNABLE to relate to another person because they are incapable of giving others true attention.

Mouth Covering — Some people cover their mouths when they speak. It gives the impression of anxiety and also that they are trying to hide. It also makes them harder to hear, and most people won’t put in the effort to hear them because it requires too much ear-strain.

Only Slang — Slang has its time and place in communication, but people who can only speak slang dialects demonstrate a lack of intelligence. It’s hard for me to imagine anyone giving these people a job.

Mumbling — Mumblers don’t open their mouths much when they speak, therefore the sounds come out unclearly. It gives the impression of being (a) mentally slow or (b) very low in energy.

No English — I used to live abroad in a country where I tried and failed to learn the language. Due to the fact I failed, I went home. If you can’t speak the language and you intend to live somewhere permanently, the quality of your life will be extremely poor, you will be isolated, and you will live totally apart from the culture of the place. People failing to learn the language of the country they move to is extremely common, but yet, so many people stay even if it means that they are mute.

Not making any sense — some people have the appearance of being able to speak, but the content of what they are saying makes no sense. It’s all disconnected and random and is draining to listen to.

The above list features just some of the signs of incompetent communication I regularly encounter in the course of my daily life. For most of these people there is no help possible as they really don’t care about their speaking ability.

Top 10 Reasons People Don’t Like Their Voices

In my work as a speech and voice coach, here are the top 10 reasons people have for not liking the way that their voices sound:

Men Who Don’t Like The Way Their Voices Sound…

  1. Voice not deep enough (sounds too feminine)
  2. Voice lacks gravitas  (sounds unconfident)
  3. Voice not loud enough (sounds unconfident)
  4. Voice is overly nasal (sounds nerdy)
  5. Voice is monotone (sounds boring)

Women Who Don’t Like The Way Their Voices Sound…

  1. Voice is shrill (sounds unpleasant)
  2. Voice is manly (sounds overly deep)
  3. Voice is squeaky (sounds too high pitched)
  4. Voice has mucus (sounds unhealthy)
  5. Voice is damaged by smoking (sounds unhealthy)

For my help improving the way your voice sounds, check out my Best Voice Profile service.

How to Ask Someone Out (Phrases to Use)

Learn 35 useful conversational phrases for making friends or asking someone out on a date. Meeting new people can be awkward, especially if you don’t know the language perfectly. In this lesson, I will teach you what to say when you first meet someone new at a class or activity, what to say when you meet someone by chance, and what to say when you want to get to know someone better and to deepen your relationship. Learn these phrases and you will improve your conversational ability in friendship and dating situations.

Healing Speech and Communication Issues

Some things I have learnt from my own experiences related to speaking and communication as well as working with my clients…


If you are mute you don’t have to be

If you put yourself in a mute situation you are choosing pain

If you created a life of muteness you gave up yourself

If your voice is quiet and unheard you are choosing that

If you can’t express yourself you can start

If you can’t show yourself you can learn

If you can’t breathe you can heal

If people silence you they don’t want to hear you

If people you care about silence you, you don’t need them

If your family don’t hear you, accept them or go where you will be heard

If you’re a lone voice where you are, accept that they won’t and can’t hear you

If you think that most people listen, you’re wrong

If you think none of this matters, I’m not the teacher for you

If you want to learn perfection, that way leads to pain

If you want to be more imperfectly you, I’ll teach you everything I learned

Over Enunciation — How Annoying!

Over enunciation (also over articulation and over pronunciation) is when a speaker puts far too much effort into saying every sound in a word. I give you an example of a speaker who over enunciates, and share with you what it reveals about people who speak this way.

The Rime of the Ancient Mariner (Reading)

My speech performance reading of the ‘Rime of the Ancient Mariner’ (1834) by Samuel Taylor Coleridge. In the introduction I also talk about the meaning of the albatross symbol. This poem is one of my favourite poems form the Romanticism era of English poetry.

7 Truths of Accent Training

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Can You Change Your Voice?

Are you stuck with the voice you are born with or can you change it? I explain whether you can change your voice based on my personal experience as a speech, voice and personal development teacher.

Speak Like Holly: An Attractive and Appealing Voice

How to speak attractively like Holly Willoughby. Holly’s voice hits the sweet spot of feminine vocal attractiveness and is very appealing to listen to. In this video I share with you the secrets that make her voice and speaking style so attractive.

The secrets of Holly’s vocal attractiveness that I share in this video include:
1. Her feminine pitch
2. Her golden tones
3. Her giggling attacks
4. Her saucy innuendos
5. Her nurturing side and baby talking

For my international viewers, Holly Willoughby is the darling of daytime TV in the UK. She co-presents the lifestyle show ‘This Morning’ with Philip Schofield, who is also referred to in this video.

Pro Speaker Tips: How to Be Natural

Are you a speaker who is working to improve your public speaking skills? Are you a YouTuber who wants to improve your improvised speaking skills? In this video I explain the difference between two opposite styles of speech: ‘Perfect Speech’ and ‘Flow Speech’. By following my speaking tips, you will become a more authentic and naturally expressive speaker.

I address the following questions: How important is it to speak clearly when presenting? What’s the reason that some speakers speak slowly and robotically? What are the downsides of speaking too perfectly?

Should You Change Your Voice to Be More Attractive?

My voice tips were featured on ‘The Doctors’ show which is one of the biggest daytime TV shows in the USA. They discussed the question of whether you should change your voice to be more attractive, using my Kylie Jenner seductive voice video as their example.

Here’s the full version with tips to get an attractive voice:

The Witches of Macbeth

The famous scene from Shakespeare’s Macbeth where the witches stir up a potion (Act 4, Scene 1): ‘Double, double, toil and trouble; Fire burn, and cauldron bubble’. My version is not the original text of Shakespeare’s play; it is a slight adaptation of Roman Polanski’s film version (1971).

The witches of Macbeth are supposed to evoke a strong sense of disgust in us. Since the witches are ‘low characters’ in Shakespeare’s Macbeth, I have chosen not to speak in clear ‘Shakespearean English’ to deliver these lines.

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Macbeth / Roman Polanski Witches Script:

By the pricking of my thumbs, something wicked this way comes

Hahahaha!

[how now you secret, black and midnight hags – what is to do!]

A deed without a name

Double, double, toil and trouble;
Fire burn, and cauldron bubble.

Double, double, toil and trouble;
Fire burn, and cauldron bubble.

Toad, that under cold stone
Days and nights had thirty-one

Swelter’d venom sleeping got,
Boil thou first i’ the charm’ed pot.

Eye of newt and toe of frog,
Wool of bat and tongue of dog,

Adder’s fork and blind-worm’s sting,
Lizard’s leg and owlet’s wing,

Nose of Turk and Tartar’s lips,
Severed in the moon’s eclipse

Fillet of a fenny snake,
Into the cauldron boil and bake;

Liver of blaspheming Jew,
Gall of goat, and slips of yew

Double, double, toil and trouble;
Fire burn, and cauldron bubble.

Double, double, toil and trouble;
Fire burn, and cauldron bubble.

Cool it with a baboon’s blood,
Then the charm is firm and good.