Are you awkward about giving compliments and receiving compliments? Do you either say nothing or brush them off? Here are my tips about when to give compliments and what to say.

I talk about the importance of giving genuine compliments and about how some people use compliments as a means of being influential. Follow my tips and you won’t feel awkward next time you give or receive a compliment!

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Jade Joddle is a speech and voice teacher for high-level professionals. She teaches her non-native speaker clients to Speak Well so that they thrive and succeed.

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  1. Hi Jade thank you , i agree with you and i’m looking forward to working with your tips but for an introvert like me , It is not as easy as it sounds…… i’m always embarrassed when i try to give compliments someone…. even if they have nothing to do with her or his good_looking …I’m generally afraid of the idea that people might get a bad impression of me (something along the lines of……an Apple polisher ???)

  2. Hi Jade thank you, i agree with you and i ‘m looking forward to working with your tips but for an introvert like me , it’s not as easy as it sounds……i’m always embarrassed when i try to give compliments someone…..i’m generally afraid of the idea that people might get a bad impression of me (something along the lines of …….an apple polisher for example??)

  3. Hey Jade it was a really interesting topic and thank you for making this video. I hope your passion for making new videos is coming back a bit because I really enjoy watching them!!

    I once complimented someone who I didn’t quite like at work ending up feeling so guilty about that. Apparently, that person seemed almost gleeful, but I hated myself so much for being dishonest. Like you, I can give compliments naturally when I mean it, but receiving them… unfortunately makes me cringe all the time. It’s time to learn say ‘thank you’. Sigh.. honestly I don’t enjoy most of the social situations and really hate pretending but it seems there’s no other ways. What a harsh reality!

    It’s ridiculous that these days children are told that we are all friends. I often see some feel left out when they are not with a group. Some try to make friends with those who they don’t really like. Some feel ashamed of being alone. I guess I’ve said things to kids that I’m not supposed to say. Yesterday, a kid said to me “sometimes I feel I’m forgotten..” with a fat tear rolling down her nose. It was only becasue she wanted to be “forgiven” by a person she didn’t like but excluded her.

  4. Hey Jade it was a really interesting topic and thank you for making this video. I hope your passion for making new videos is coming back a bit because I really enjoy watching them!!

    I once complimented someone who I didn’t quite like at work ending up feeling so guilty about that. Apparently, that person seemed almost gleeful, but I hated myself so much for being dishonest. Like you, I can give compliments naturally when I mean it, but receiving them… unfortunately makes me cringe all the time. It’s time to learn say ‘thank you’. Sigh.. honestly I don’t enjoy most of the social situations and really hate pretending but it seems there’s no other ways. What a harsh reality!

    It’s ridiculous that these days children are told that we are all friends. I often see some feel left out when they are not with a group. Some try to make friends with those who they don’t really like. Some feel ashamed of being alone. I guess I’ve said things to kids that I’m not supposed to say. Yesterday, a kid said to me “sometimes I feel I’m forgotten..” with a fat tear rolling down her nose. It was only becasue she wanted to be “forgiven” by a person she didn’t like but excluded her.

    • I’m glad you’ve said things ‘you’re not supposed to say’ as such things can really help people at times – such as the crying child you mention.

  5. Hi Jade
    Sometimes I have to give a compliment when I don’t want to. Here’s an example, I have a small You Tube channel about silver coins and such. In order to get people to watch my videos I watch and comment on their videos about their coins as well. Sometimes in the comment is a compliment sometimes it true and sometimes its just being nice. As for taking a compliment I usually say thank you. Though if it’s something I don’t think I will accomplish. I’ll be honest and say well thanks but I doubt that’s going to happen. Surprised to see you do a video on this subject. I expect you will get a lot of crude comments more on YouTube than on your blog. Here’s an honest compliment. You’re a very attractive woman Jade. Looks, intelligence and personality the whole package.

  6. hi Jade

    You always look really pretty and attractive !
    I like your videos and ideas, you are very intelligent lady !

    Steve W C

  7. I concur with you absolutely Jade in terms of a positive way to receive compliments. For eg if I receive a compliment about a nice necktie that I am wearing I not only say thank you but I add that I do put in a lot of effort into my appearance as I am a graduate of modelling school. I am therefore glad for the feedback. However, in the reverse situation, when I compliment younger and single ladies on their appearance, it has often been misconstrued as a sign of romantic interest on my part when that has not been my intention. To remedy this I frame my compliment as a professional compliment again because of my interest in men’s and women’s fashion from modelling school

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