Watch your Language to Reach your goals
I believe our language is powerful, therefore we should use our words wisely. Our language influences us in whether we achieve our goals, and whether the things we want to happen, happen. Let me give you some examples of how you can change your language to change your life.
Let’s take the situation of when someone tries to quit smoking. It’s not easy to do. Many people are able to quit for a short time, then they start to smoke again. I want to show you how the actual language you use to talk about making a change in your life has a big impact on whether you are able to reach your goals. The language you use reveals your subconscious beliefs about yourself.
Here are some different examples of language you can use to talk about the situation where you intend to stop smoking.
I’m going to stop smoking – this shows you delay the action of quitting until the future. You haven’t yet made the mental change that you need to consider yourself as someone who does not smoke anymore. I’ve observed that when someone says they are ‘going to’ stop doing something, they don’t really mean it and it won’t happen.
I’m going to try to quit smoking – the verb ‘try’ is weak in intention. When you try to do something you may first fail many times. I find the word ‘try’ very often implies failure. It’s as if you’re saying, ‘I don’t really believe in myself.’
I have stopped smoking – this phrase is confident and assured because the present perfect means all the time in the past until today.
I want to stop smoking – many of us want something but just because we want something it doesn’t mean that you have the strength or willpower to make it happen.
I wish I could stop smoking – when you ‘wish’ for something you don’t really believe it is possible.
I’m trying to – sometimes trying isn’t good enough. You need to be more certain about what you are doing so that you give yourself the best possible chance to reach your goals.
Bear this in mind next time you want to make a change in your life. Language is powerful so make sure you use it carefully. Choose to speak in the right way so you don’t wreck your chance of meeting your goal.