Get Control of  Hesitations and Stutters when Speaking

Most people will experience moments in their lives where hesitation creeps into their speech. It happens in new situations, when you step outside of your comfort-zone and feel nervous. Typical situations where people have an issue with hesitation in their speech are job interviews or when giving presentations.

By hesitation I mean the sounds we make when our thoughts are disorganised. I also consider stuttering, when a word is not said perfectly the first time, to be a form of hesitation in speech.


Although hesitation in speech is completely normal and everybody does it sometimes, you can learn to control it when you speak. If you have an issue with hesitation, it’s a good thing to learn to control it because it can give a bad impression of you. People may think that your thoughts are disorganised and that you lack confidence, if there are a lot of hesitations in your speech.

One of the ways you can show that you are in control and sure of yourself is to remove the hesitations from your speech. The way you achieve this is to replace the hesitation with a pause. A pause is something that comes across as authoritative and in control. Whenever you find yourself reaching for a word or trying to remember a word, pause. It’s much better than making the sound of a hesitation.

How can you get control of the hesitations? You make this change to your speech you need to take a different perspective when you talk. This means you screen your words as you say them and observe where there is a hesitation. You simply observe and notice your hesitations. This trains your awareness to them.

The most important thing about doing this is that you should never be critical of yourself whenever you hesitate. When you are hard on yourself that only makes your nerves worse. Never be critical of the things that you observe in your speech that you don’t like.

When you observe yourself speaking, you always do it in a detached way.

Stuttering and hesitation is made worse by fighting against it. That’s because you cannot control nervousness by trying to control your body. If you find that you are stuttering a lot and feel embarrassed about it, you need to observe the physical reaction that your body makes. Notice if your body posture is very tight. Witness the physical symptoms of your nervousness but never try to force them to be different. When you accept that your body is nervous, you stop fighting your nerves, and this means that they lose control over you.

When you get control of your nerves, you get control of the hesitation and stuttering.