The Airy Mind and the Earthy Body

Guest Post by Nina Lalumia

At least since the time of Aristotle (the fourth century B. C.), the idea that there are four basic elements–earth, water, air and fire–has been an important theme in our culture. Aristotle himself used this idea to understand the physical world. He thought about the four elements much the same way that chemists today understand elements such as hydrogen and carbon. The basic idea is that underlying any […]

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How an INTJ Thinks

A look inside the mind of an INTJ (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judgement)…

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The INTJ personality looks at the world by analysing it and breaking it down into patterns. When an INTJ encounters a problem, he or she will apply intuition and reasoning to find a solution. Sometimes this results in breakthrough moments and radical solutions. However, the endless thinking and analysing can also get the INTJ absolutely nowhere.

The thinking self of an INTJ […]

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How INTJs Solve Problems with Their Heads

INTJ PROBLEMS: they can’t all be solved by using your head. Sometimes analysing and finding the reason for ‘why’ something is happening takes you around in circles and keeps you stuck.


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As an INTJ the way I solve problems is to deeply analyse the situation. Even when I have an emotional or health problem the way […]

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Jade, The Alien

Every once in a while, I like to write or make a video about something a bit different; today is one of those days…

For those who don’t already know, I have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome according to this test. I also know this without needing a test on the internet to diagnose me: I can read through a list of the signs and see myself in them. When I […]

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Suppressed Anger and Muteness

This post is from personal experience and observations. I hope it is useful for you if the following points describe you:

  1. You had/have experienced muteness as a child or teenager. This includes not speaking to certain people and behaving as if they don’t exist.
  2. When someone hurts you it is a lifetime habit of yours to shut them out completely as if they don’t exist. You do not relent.
  3. You are not in touch with your anger […]
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From Fun to Freakout – NYE Aftermath Meltdown

Here’s a description of a meltdown I had following a NYE party. A meltdown is a kind of angry panic attack that can happen as a result of over-stimulation and/or a stressful situation in a person who has Asperger’s Syndrome or Asperger’s traits.  Although in some circumstances I am able to stop the meltdown as it develops, on this occurrence I was not able […]

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How ‘Not Talking’ to People Actually Hurts You

I come from a family that makes use of the silent treatment to communicate anger. When I was a kid, sometimes I used to go to my grandparents’ house during the times that they weren’t talking to each other due to an argument between them. Sometimes their periods of silence would last for a long time, even weeks, meanwhile they lived together in the same house under a tense and uncomfortable, silent atmosphere. If they […]

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Big Five Personality Test – My Score

In this post I will provide a commentary for my score in the Big Five Personality Test. If you would like to do the test you can do so HERE. You can also take the test in German, Dutch or Spanish (see the top-right of the page in small font). I recommend you take the test first before reading my commentary. 

The Big Five […]

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Introvert or Asperger’s Traits?

Outlining a few major traits of Asperger’s syndrome. Does this sound like you?


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Asperger’s Traits in Women: About Me

I have not been formally diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. This post lists the traits of Asperger’s Syndrome in women and gives commentary on my personal experience. To view the original, full list of Asperger’s traits in women, CLICK HERE. (I skipped traits that were ambiguous or unclear in my understanding.)


(1) Dresses comfortably due to sensory issues – YES. I pretty much […]

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How to stop your mind going blank in interviews

Do you freeze or does your mind go blank in job interviews? For some people, going into stressful speaking situations such as job interviews triggers a ‘fight or flight’ panic response to happen in them. What the freeze panic response feels like is that you can’t speak or your mind goes completely blank for a moment. Whether it lasts for a second or a couple of seconds you are unable to react, like a […]

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Extreme Shyness and a Blocked Solar Plexus Chakra

This post is based upon personal reflection regarding the third chakra (solar plexus chakra) and the role it plays a role in extreme introversion and shyness.


Blocked solar plexus chakra – The third chakra is the seat of one’s personal power and sense of self. When this chakra is open and balanced it allows you to express yourself with confidence and to show your ‘real self’. On the other hand, when this chakra is […]

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My Asperger’s Syndrome Quiz Score

At suggestion of fans with Asperger’s Syndrome who read this blog, I decided to take an Asperger’s Syndrome quiz. If you would like to take the test yourself you can do it here.

The questions on the Aspie Quiz cover 4 categories:  neurotypical traits (non-Aspie) , neurodiverse traits (Aspie) , people skills and intellectual skills. For each question you have to choose whether a specific trait […]

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Is Turkey The Hardest Place to Make Friends?

Today I am feeling sorry for myself so I decided to write about my experience of making friends in Turkey. 

I have had enough international experience of living in different places to know that every place in the world has different social rules about friendship and making friends. When you move to a new country you can’t just expect it to be the same as what you are used to in you […]

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Everyday Ways People Hurt and Confuse You In Life

I have learned that people may act in confusing and hurtful ways. Here are some ‘small’ confusing things I have experienced that hurt me more than you might imagine…

(1) Invited to Get in Touch – Then Blanked – One day I was walking my mum’s dog when an old family friend stopped me in the street. When I was a child we used to go on holiday together. She seemed really happy to […]

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