How The Cave Creeps Up on You (As You Know It Always Does)

I’ve been thinking it’s time to give you folks a cave update. I am currently in my introvert’s cave, where I have been hibernating (or hiding?) since the first of January 2016. This time it crept up slowly, and I willingly allowed it to happen. Another word for retreating to the introvert’s cave for days that turn into weeks that turn into months is agoraphobia. One of the underlying reasons agoraphobia develops is that you avoid […]

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Asperger’s is Awesome

For most of my life I blamed myself for the suffering in my heart. I kept trying to change myself so that I could achieve connection with more people. Now I don’t try to change myself I am happy to be me. I am proud that I am open to life, whether or not other people want to connect with me.

This video is to remind you that Asperger’s is awesome:

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Is This a Panic Attack?

The first thing that comes to mind when thinking of what makes a panic attack is hyperventilation and the often repeated advice of breathing into a paper bag. However, not all panic attacks involve obvious breathing difficulties, which can make them hard to identify. In fact, if you get sneaky panic attacks, you may have been having them for your whole life without even realising.  Watch 10 signs of hard to identify panic attacks in the video […]

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The Empty Feeling of ‘Normal’ Friendship

This post describes the alienating feeling of ‘normal’ friendship from the perspective of someone (me) who scores highly in having traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. It seems to me that the empty feeling of normal friendship is something felt also by a small percentage of people who, unlike me, don’t have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. I don’t know what to call this other group of people, but I think that we share something in common both in […]

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22 Asperger’s Signs in Adults

A list of classic and more subtle traits of Asperger’s Syndrome in adults:

  1. Misunderstood – most people just don’t get you.
  2. Sensory overwhelm – sometimes your senses are too sharp.
  3. Angry explosion meltdowns – may happen when triggered or feeling trapped.
  4. Crying meltdowns – may happen when overwhelmed.
  5. Silent shutdowns – times when you can’t speak or socialise.
  6. Avoidance – not going places you imagine will be hard for you.
  7. Head person – logical person who thinks and analyses.
  8. Pattern finder – […]
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Learning English Has Turned Me Into a Shy Person – HELP!

Talking about muteness in foreign language situations.

This email is my advice reply to a fan email. The issue is that after a year and a half of studying English abroad in a language school he can still barely speak a word. During this experience his whole personality has changed from confident to shy.

He writes in his email that he was originally shy as a child / young person but he got over it in […]

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I can’t say my name :| (advice)

What to do if you can’t say your own name…

Not being able to pronounce one’s own name can be a source of embarrassment or anxiety. I recommend getting informed and being prepared when it comes to saying one’s name. This is because avoiding ‘problem’ words will only lead to increased anxiety and avoidance of more and more words.

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The Airy Mind and the Earthy Body

Guest Post by Nina Lalumia

At least since the time of Aristotle (the fourth century B. C.), the idea that there are four basic elements–earth, water, air and fire–has been an important theme in our culture. Aristotle himself used this idea to understand the physical world. He thought about the four elements much the same way that chemists today understand elements such as hydrogen and carbon. The basic idea is that underlying any […]

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How an INTJ Thinks

A look inside the mind of an INTJ (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judgement)…

Watch Part Two: CLICK HERE

The INTJ personality looks at the world by analysing it and breaking it down into patterns. When an INTJ encounters a problem, he or she will apply intuition and reasoning to find a solution. Sometimes this results in breakthrough moments and radical solutions. However, the endless thinking and analysing can also get the INTJ absolutely nowhere.

The thinking self of an INTJ […]

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How INTJs Solve Problems with Their Heads

INTJ PROBLEMS: they can’t all be solved by using your head. Sometimes analysing and finding the reason for ‘why’ something is happening takes you around in circles and keeps you stuck.

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Watch Part One: CLICK HERE

As an INTJ the way I solve problems is to deeply analyse the situation. Even when I have an emotional or health problem the way […]

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Jade, The Alien

Every once in a while, I like to write or make a video about something a bit different; today is one of those days…


For those who don’t already know, I have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome according to this test. I also know this without needing a test on the internet to diagnose me: I can read through a list of the signs and see myself in them. When I […]

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Suppressed Anger and Muteness

This post is from personal experience and observations. I hope it is useful for you if the following points describe you:

  1. You had/have experienced muteness as a child or teenager. This includes not speaking to certain people and behaving as if they don’t exist.
  2. When someone hurts you it is a lifetime habit of yours to shut them out completely as if they don’t exist. You do not relent.
  3. You are not in touch with your anger […]
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From Fun to Freakout – NYE Aftermath Meltdown

Here’s a description of a meltdown I had following a NYE party. A meltdown is a kind of angry panic attack that can happen as a result of over-stimulation and/or a stressful situation in a person who has Asperger’s Syndrome or Asperger’s traits.  Although in some circumstances I am able to stop the meltdown as it develops, on this occurrence I was not able […]

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How ‘Not Talking’ to People Actually Hurts You

I come from a family that makes use of the silent treatment to communicate anger. When I was a kid, sometimes I used to go to my grandparents’ house during the times that they weren’t talking to each other due to an argument between them. Sometimes their periods of silence would last for a long time, even weeks, meanwhile they lived together in the same house under a tense and uncomfortable, silent atmosphere. If they […]

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Big Five Personality Test – My Score

In this post I will provide a commentary for my score in the Big Five Personality Test. If you would like to do the test you can do so HERE. You can also take the test in German, Dutch or Spanish (see the top-right of the page in small font). I recommend you take the test first before reading my commentary. 


The Big Five […]

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