Hume’s Theory of Sympathy

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part 1 of 3): A Proper Understanding of Sympathy

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

This is the first in a series of three posts following up on Jade’s post about false empathy. I’m aiming to make clear in my own way what’s sick about false empathy. I also propose a healthy alternative: what I call “lively sympathy.” The ultimate goal is to shed light on what it is that […]

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On Being Emotionally Naive and Gullible

Emotionally gullible people give 100 percent of their trust to their friends or to the people they like. However, this can and often does lead to being let down by the people we open up to and feel hopeful about developing relationships with.

In this video I discuss my coping strategies for dealing with my own emotional gullibility which involve having high standards regarding the people I invite into my life. Something I forgot to […]

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My Shadow Selves

When I make videos, it’s not that unusual to get comments on the video like, “Jade, you’re such a nice person; you’ve got such a good heart; Wow, I wish I had a friend like you.” I get these kinds of comments, and therefore I want to address my shadow personalities in this post. And the purpose of doing this is to show by my own example that the personalities that we see on […]

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Loneliness

I’ve been writing a series of posts in which I categorise different kinds of people into being empty people, half people, full people, or hermit people. And recently I realised that this is not something that most people can identify with, because it’s not how they experience socialising. I experience the social world in a very different way to most people. And part of my realisation has to do with my Asperger’s […]

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Exercises for Balancing your Brain (Right and Left Hemispheres)

How to balance your brain (exercises)…

Having an imbalanced brain means that a person is not able to interpret the world holistically. We will either be driven purely by cold logic, or we will be slaves reacting to our emotions. The result on aggregate is that we are living in an imbalanced world where the creative, nurturing force is repressed.

There are more people with left brain imbalance than right brain imbalance most likely as a […]

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The Empathy Brainwash

Brené Brown is a hugely successful author in the self-help / popular psychology genre who has sold over 5,000,000 books. Her topics include shame, connection and vulnerability. The video below offers Brené Brown’s position on empathy, which is that the best way to ease someone’s suffering is to go down and feel it with them:

At the time of […]

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Empathy Test

How Empathetic Are You?

Test One

Test your Empathy Quotient CLICK HERE.

My score: 22/80 which according to the results is in the range of Asperger’s Syndrome.

Test Two

Take the Empathy Quiz CLICK HERE.

In this test I got an average score which if I remember rightly was 52/100.


 

Empathy Tests – My Thoughts

According to the questions in these tests, it would seem to me that empathic behaviours have a lot […]

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Asperger’s No Empathy?

People with Asperger’s Syndrome have no empathy – is it true?

It is widely said that people with Asperger’s Syndrome are not capable of empathy. In this video I share my own personal perspective on empathy as a person with Asperger’s traits / right-brained Asperger’s Syndrome.

Empathy is the abilities to put oneself in the shoes of someone else to be able to feel their feelings. While I am able to put myself in the shoes […]

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How to Stop Being a Perfectionist with Writing

In my opinion and experience there are two kinds of perfectionism: one kind of perfectionism is the kind in which one is never satisfied with what is created, and the other kind is a blocked kind of perfectionism in which the perfectionist cannot even begin the task. This video talks specifically about the blocked kind of perfectionism and how to overcome it. The reflections are based on my own personal life experience.

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How The Cave Creeps Up on You (As You Know It Always Does)

I’ve been thinking it’s time to give you folks a cave update. I am currently in my introvert’s cave, where I have been hibernating (or hiding?) since the first of January 2016. This time it crept up slowly, and I willingly allowed it to happen. Another word for retreating to the introvert’s cave for days that turn into weeks that turn into months is agoraphobia. One of the underlying reasons agoraphobia develops is that you avoid […]

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Asperger’s is Awesome

For most of my life I blamed myself for the suffering in my heart. I kept trying to change myself so that I could achieve connection with more people. Now I don’t try to change myself I am happy to be me. I am proud that I am open to life, whether or not other people want to connect with me.

This video is to remind you that Asperger’s is awesome:

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Is This a Panic Attack?

The first thing that comes to mind when thinking of what makes a panic attack is hyperventilation and the often repeated advice of breathing into a paper bag. However, not all panic attacks involve obvious breathing difficulties, which can make them hard to identify. In fact, if you get sneaky panic attacks, you may have been having them for your whole life without even realising.  Watch 10 signs of hard to identify panic attacks in the video […]

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The Empty Feeling of ‘Normal’ Friendship

This post describes the alienating feeling of ‘normal’ friendship from the perspective of someone (me) who scores highly in having traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. It seems to me that the empty feeling of normal friendship is something felt also by a small percentage of people who, unlike me, don’t have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. I don’t know what to call this other group of people, but I think that we share something in common both in […]

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22 Asperger’s Signs in Adults

A list of classic and more subtle traits of Asperger’s Syndrome in adults:

  1. Misunderstood – most people just don’t get you.
  2. Sensory overwhelm – sometimes your senses are too sharp.
  3. Angry explosion meltdowns – may happen when triggered or feeling trapped.
  4. Crying meltdowns – may happen when overwhelmed.
  5. Silent shutdowns – times when you can’t speak or socialise.
  6. Avoidance – not going places you imagine will be hard for you.
  7. Head person – logical person who thinks and analyses.
  8. Pattern finder – […]
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Learning English Has Turned Me Into a Shy Person – HELP!

Talking about muteness in foreign language situations.

This email is my advice reply to a fan email. The issue is that after a year and a half of studying English abroad in a language school he can still barely speak a word. During this experience his whole personality has changed from confident to shy.

He writes in his email that he was originally shy as a child / young person but he got over it in […]

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