Updated Thoughts on Mutism

I mainly experience mutism when in a group conversation or when overwhelmed in a foreign language speaking environment. There’s also a third, less predictable way that I become mute and that is to do with certain people. From the first moment when I encounter one of these people, I’m either completely mute or can only say basic words such as ‘hi,’ ‘goodbye’, and ‘thanks.’ Even saying simple words such as these requires a lot […]

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Mutism as Protest

Talking about the idea of choosing mutism as a protest against a particular situation or interaction with a person who is in some way triggering.

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Mutes Anonymous

Talking about my 2 and a half years of muteness.

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Descent into the underworld

I’ve had the experience of living in many different places in my life, different countries, and each time the experience offered me a gift, in that it unlocked a part of my personality that I didn’t know before. Among the things I’ve learnt are to be able to feel a deep connection with nature (Nepal), social confidence (Dubai), and adventurousness of spirit (Amsterdam). But living in Turkey has been a different experience. What I’ve mainly […]

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Empathy and Caring

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part Three of Three): False Empathy and Authentic Caring

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

In a previous post, Jade criticised a video on the topic of empathy by Brené Brown. In the third and final part of this series, I aim to make clear in my own terms what’s helpful, and what’s misleading and even false, about what Brené Brown says.

In relation to ‘sympathy,’ the word ‘empathy’ is fairly new. […]

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The Social Function of Emotions

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part Two of Three): Understanding Emotions from an Evolutionary Perspective

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

 

“Justice is that which benefits your friends and harms your enemies.”

Polemarchus in Plato’s Republic

 

Chimpanzees and bonobos are human beings’ closest living relatives, since we all share a common ancestor—some kind of ape that lived five or six million years ago. By looking at how chimpanzees live, we […]

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Hume’s Theory of Sympathy

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part 1 of 3): A Proper Understanding of Sympathy

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

This is the first in a series of three posts following up on Jade’s post about false empathy. I’m aiming to make clear in my own way what’s sick about false empathy. I also propose a healthy alternative: what I call “lively sympathy.” The ultimate goal is to shed light on what it is that […]

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On Being Emotionally Naive and Gullible

Emotionally gullible people give 100 percent of their trust to their friends or to the people they like. However, this can and often does lead to being let down by the people we open up to and feel hopeful about developing relationships with.

In this video I discuss my coping strategies for dealing with my own emotional gullibility which involve having high standards regarding the people I invite into my life. Something I forgot to […]

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My Shadow Selves

When I make videos, it’s not that unusual to get comments on the video like, “Jade, you’re such a nice person; you’ve got such a good heart; Wow, I wish I had a friend like you.” I get these kinds of comments, and therefore I want to address my shadow personalities in this post. And the purpose of doing this is to show by my own example that the personalities that we see on […]

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Loneliness

I’ve been writing a series of posts in which I categorise different kinds of people into being empty people, half people, full people, or hermit people. And recently I realised that this is not something that most people can identify with, because it’s not how they experience socialising. I experience the social world in a very different way to most people. And part of my realisation has to do with my Asperger’s […]

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Exercises for Balancing your Brain (Right and Left Hemispheres)

How to balance your brain (exercises)…

Having an imbalanced brain means that a person is not able to interpret the world holistically. We will either be driven purely by cold logic, or we will be slaves reacting to our emotions. The result on aggregate is that we are living in an imbalanced world where the creative, nurturing force is repressed.

There are more people with left brain imbalance than right brain imbalance most likely as a […]

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The Empathy Brainwash

Brené Brown is a hugely successful author in the self-help / popular psychology genre who has sold over 5,000,000 books. Her topics include shame, connection and vulnerability. The video below offers Brené Brown’s position on empathy, which is that the best way to ease someone’s suffering is to go down and feel it with them:

At the time of […]

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Empathy Test

How Empathetic Are You?

Test One

Test your Empathy Quotient CLICK HERE.

My score: 22/80 which according to the results is in the range of Asperger’s Syndrome.

Test Two

Take the Empathy Quiz CLICK HERE.

In this test I got an average score which if I remember rightly was 52/100.


 

Empathy Tests – My Thoughts

According to the questions in these tests, it would seem to me that empathic behaviours have a lot […]

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Asperger’s No Empathy?

People with Asperger’s Syndrome have no empathy – is it true?

It is widely said that people with Asperger’s Syndrome are not capable of empathy. In this video I share my own personal perspective on empathy as a person with Asperger’s traits / right-brained Asperger’s Syndrome.

Empathy is the abilities to put oneself in the shoes of someone else to be able to feel their feelings. While I am able to put myself in the shoes […]

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How to Stop Being a Perfectionist with Writing

In my opinion and experience there are two kinds of perfectionism: one kind of perfectionism is the kind in which one is never satisfied with what is created, and the other kind is a blocked kind of perfectionism in which the perfectionist cannot even begin the task. This video talks specifically about the blocked kind of perfectionism and how to overcome it. The reflections are based on my own personal life experience.

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