Talking about the idea of choosing mutism as a protest against a particular situation or interaction with a person who is in some way triggering.
I’ve had the experience of living in many different places in my life, different countries, and each time the experience offered me a gift, in that it unlocked a part of my personality that I didn’t know before. Among the things I’ve learnt are to be able to feel a deep connection with nature (Nepal), social confidence (Dubai), and adventurousness of spirit (Amsterdam). But living in Turkey has been a different experience. What I’ve mainly […]
Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part Three of Three): False Empathy and Authentic Caring
Guest Post by Nina LaLumia
In a previous post, Jade criticised a video on the topic of empathy by Brené Brown. In the third and final part of this series, I aim to make clear in my own terms what’s helpful, and what’s misleading and even false, about what Brené Brown says.
In relation to ‘sympathy,’ the word ‘empathy’ is fairly new. […]
Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part 1 of 3): A Proper Understanding of Sympathy
Guest Post by Nina LaLumia
This is the first in a series of three posts following up on Jade’s post about false empathy. I’m aiming to make clear in my own way what’s sick about false empathy. I also propose a healthy alternative: what I call “lively sympathy.” The ultimate goal is to shed light on what it is that […]
Emotionally gullible people give 100 percent of their trust to their friends or to the people they like. However, this can and often does lead to being let down by the people we open up to and feel hopeful about developing relationships with.
In this video I discuss my coping strategies for dealing with my own emotional gullibility which involve having high standards regarding the people I invite into my life. Something I forgot to […]
When I make videos, it’s not that unusual to get comments on the video like, “Jade, you’re such a nice person; you’ve got such a good heart; Wow, I wish I had a friend like you.” I get these kinds of comments, and therefore I want to address my shadow personalities in this post. And the purpose of doing this is to show by my own example that the personalities that we see on […]
I’ve been writing a series of posts in which I categorise different kinds of people into being empty people, half people, full people, or hermit people. And recently I realised that this is not something that most people can identify with, because it’s not how they experience socialising. I experience the social world in a very different way to most people. And part of my realisation has to do with my Asperger’s […]
How to balance your brain (exercises)…
Having an imbalanced brain means that a person is not able to interpret the world holistically. We will either be driven purely by cold logic, or we will be slaves reacting to our emotions. The result on aggregate is that we are living in an imbalanced world where the creative, nurturing force is repressed.
There are more people with left brain imbalance than right brain imbalance most likely as a […]
Brené Brown is a hugely successful author in the self-help / popular psychology genre who has sold over 5,000,000 books. Her topics include shame, connection and vulnerability. The video below offers Brené Brown’s position on empathy, which is that the best way to ease someone’s suffering is to go down and feel it with them:
At the time of […]
How Empathetic Are You?
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My score: 22/80 which according to the results is in the range of Asperger’s Syndrome.
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In this test I got an average score which if I remember rightly was 52/100.
Empathy Tests – My Thoughts
According to the questions in these tests, it would seem to me that empathic behaviours have a lot […]
People with Asperger’s Syndrome have no empathy – is it true?
It is widely said that people with Asperger’s Syndrome are not capable of empathy. In this video I share my own personal perspective on empathy as a person with Asperger’s traits / right-brained Asperger’s Syndrome.
Empathy is the abilities to put oneself in the shoes of someone else to be able to feel their feelings. While I am able to put myself in the shoes […]
In my opinion and experience there are two kinds of perfectionism: one kind of perfectionism is the kind in which one is never satisfied with what is created, and the other kind is a blocked kind of perfectionism in which the perfectionist cannot even begin the task. This video talks specifically about the blocked kind of perfectionism and how to overcome it. The reflections are based on my own personal life experience.
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I’ve been thinking it’s time to give you folks a cave update. I am currently in my introvert’s cave, where I have been hibernating (or hiding?) since the first of January 2016. This time it crept up slowly, and I willingly allowed it to happen. Another word for retreating to the introvert’s cave for days that turn into weeks that turn into months is agoraphobia. One of the underlying reasons agoraphobia develops is that you avoid […]