The Mask

What happens when your masks fall off? Talking about the process of shedding social masks and how other people may react to you by disapproving of you or disliking you.

Is there anything good about one’s social masks falling off? Yes, in the sense it helps you to realise early on who you can connect with on a deeper level, and the people who don’t really want to know you.

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Passive Aggressive Language

What is passive-aggressive language? In this lesson I talk you through examples of passive-aggressive communication, which happens when a person is angry but their anger is not directly expressed. Learning these examples will come in handle when dealing with manipulative people.

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What a Lisp Means

An intuitive description of the meaning of a lisp in terms of a person’s deeper psychology. Also including a simple exercise you can do to train your tongue to keep a more set back position in order to reduce the lisp and change your life!

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My Brain Fog

Brain fog: low energy and fatigue, low motivation, speech difficulties, increased sensitivity to noise, and lack of will to socialise. Studies have shown that people with autism spectrum disorders are among those most likely to experience brain fog.

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Do Affirmations Work? My Perspective on ‘The Secret’

What I think about The Law of Attraction and ‘The Secret’: a commentary on mainstream New Age views which claim saying positive affirmations is the way to get whatever it is your want in life — from a beautiful body, to success.

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Keeping Safe: Training Your Awareness

I teach you how to train your awareness with an awareness technique so that you can stay safe. This technique grows your awareness of body language so that you develop a more subtle awareness of people. This is different to merely judging people by surface indicators such as whether the person looks rich, successful or respectable. It can protect you in the sense that you recongise threats early on, and it can also help […]

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Updated Thoughts on Mutism

I mainly experience mutism when in a group conversation or when overwhelmed in a foreign language speaking environment. There’s also a third, less predictable way that I become mute and that is to do with certain people. From the first moment when I encounter one of these people, I’m either completely mute or can only say basic words such as ‘hi,’ ‘goodbye’, and ‘thanks.’ Even saying simple words such as these requires a lot […]

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Mutism as Protest

Talking about the idea of choosing mutism as a protest against a particular situation or interaction with a person who is in some way triggering.

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Mutes Anonymous

Talking about my 2 and a half years of muteness.

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Descent into the underworld

I’ve had the experience of living in many different places in my life, different countries, and each time the experience offered me a gift, in that it unlocked a part of my personality that I didn’t know before. Among the things I’ve learnt are to be able to feel a deep connection with nature (Nepal), social confidence (Dubai), and adventurousness of spirit (Amsterdam). But living in Turkey has been a different experience. What I’ve mainly […]

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Empathy and Caring

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part Three of Three): False Empathy and Authentic Caring

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

In a previous post, Jade criticised a video on the topic of empathy by Brené Brown. In the third and final part of this series, I aim to make clear in my own terms what’s helpful, and what’s misleading and even false, about what Brené Brown says.

In relation to ‘sympathy,’ the word ‘empathy’ is fairly new. […]

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The Social Function of Emotions

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part Two of Three): Understanding Emotions from an Evolutionary Perspective

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

 

“Justice is that which benefits your friends and harms your enemies.”

Polemarchus in Plato’s Republic

 

Chimpanzees and bonobos are human beings’ closest living relatives, since we all share a common ancestor—some kind of ape that lived five or six million years ago. By looking at how chimpanzees live, we […]

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Hume’s Theory of Sympathy

Sympathy, Empathy, and Caring (Part 1 of 3): A Proper Understanding of Sympathy

Guest Post by Nina LaLumia

This is the first in a series of three posts following up on Jade’s post about false empathy. I’m aiming to make clear in my own way what’s sick about false empathy. I also propose a healthy alternative: what I call “lively sympathy.” The ultimate goal is to shed light on what it is that […]

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On Being Emotionally Naive and Gullible

Emotionally gullible people give 100 percent of their trust to their friends or to the people they like. However, this can and often does lead to being let down by the people we open up to and feel hopeful about developing relationships with.

In this video I discuss my coping strategies for dealing with my own emotional gullibility which involve having high standards regarding the people I invite into my life. Something I forgot to […]

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My Shadow Selves

When I make videos, it’s not that unusual to get comments on the video like, “Jade, you’re such a nice person; you’ve got such a good heart; Wow, I wish I had a friend like you.” I get these kinds of comments, and therefore I want to address my shadow personalities in this post. And the purpose of doing this is to show by my own example that the personalities that we see on […]

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