What To Do When Your Friends Won’t Speak In English

I have spent years of my life feeling like an invisible ghost in social situations because my friends won’t speak in English. This happens to me when I am in a foreign language situation and I am the only one who doesn’t speak the main language. While my non native friends like to speak English with me on a one-to-one level, this preference is quickly dumped in group or party situations. Over the years […]

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The Introvert’s Cave

A poem about withdrawing from life to go into the lonely introverts cave (again)…

Seductive cave
I’d briefly thought
That we were done.
It had seemed
An amicable separation.
Over so many years
You mouldered me:
I had to get out…

Your dank depths
And batty corners
Caverns of misery.

For at least a month
I was free of you,
And it would seem
All the evidence suggested
Total annihilation of
The poisonous foundations
Upon which our lives centred.
Uprooted:
An ugly twisted clump.
In that place –
Bold, green shoots up jump.

Oh, seductive cave that […]

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How I Manage My Anxiety

When I have an attack of anxiety I feel that I can’t take a deep, full and satisfying breath into my lungs. This sensation then becomes an obsession in which I am always aware of my breathing and trying to breathe more deeply into my lungs. Sometimes it is very scary and I worry that the anxiety will never go away again. Here’s what I do to manage my anxiety at home…

(1) Stone Healing: […]

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What It Was Like To Be An Introverted Child

Sharing some memories of my introverted childhood. This video was inspired by Susan Cain’s Book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

I didn’t realise at the time that my preference to play by myself and study alone would be cause for concern to some parents. What a pity that so many introverted children are not allowed to simply be!

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Learning To Express Myself

My videos are about what I see and experience in my own life. I talk about introversion, shyness and sensitivity because I have struggled with these aspects of my personality since childhood.

While there are plenty of benefits I experience as an introvert, my particular kind of introversion is linked to problems of self-expression. Not being able to express myself fully in speech was always a source of frustration and pain for me.

I do not […]

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I want to be alone

My need for alone time (social avoidance)

When I spend time around people in social situation or just around people in general, I absorb the energy of the place and the way people feel in it. This makes me lose my balance and I don’t feel like my normal self. I don’t like feeling this way, which has led me to make choices in my life where I can protect my need for alone time.

Before […]

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Are You Secretly Shy?

Do you ever feel as if you can’t be yourself? You may be secretly shy…

Do you ever feel as if you can’t be yourself? It’s as if no matter how hard you try, the real you just can’t get out.

I’m Jade Joddle The Introvert Specialist and believe me I know what that’s like. For 25 years I felt as if I were trapped inside an egg.

When I lived inside that egg its fair to […]

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Introvert! Introvert! Introvert!

Being an introvert is both good and bad, you know…

I look out at the world through big, googly introverted glasses. That’s just how it is for me – so be it. I’m not proud about my introverted reality because I didn’t do anything special to make it happen. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been this way.

The best times in my introverted life are when I escape into nature. I feel […]

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Jade Joddle – My Kind of Introversion

Being an introvert is not all sunshine and roses for me…

While there are plenty of benefits I experience as an introvert, my particular kind of introversion is linked to problems of self-expression. Not being able to express myself fully in speech was always a source of frustration and pain for me.

I do not believe our personalities are fixed. If an area of my life causes me pain then I apply my focus to that […]

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How To Be More Social (Come As You Are)

Do you spend too much time alone avoiding opportunities to socialise?

I know what that feels like and here’s my solution…

I put a lot of pressure on myself in social situations. There is this part of me that is always striving and working away to bring her very best self along to the gathering. I realised that is a dumb thing to do because it is very tiring to sparkle each and every time you […]

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My Introvert Cave

Mad Hermit Woman

This poem is about me coming to a point where it is time to make a very big change in my life. There is nothing new for me to learn or gain from spending so much time alone and choosing to be an outsider my whole life.

I am bored of this quiet, over-sensitive existence. I am also very scared about making this change because it means not running away anymore. And running […]

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I want to be alone

Understanding Introverts and Alone Time

When I spend time around people in social situation or just around people in general, I absorb the energy of the place and the way people feel in it. This makes me lose my balance and I don’t feel like my normal self. I don’t like feeling this way, which has led me to make choices in my life where I can protect my need for alone time.

Before I knew […]

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What’s it Like to Wear Glasses and Contact Lenses?

Sharing ‘Four-Eyes’ Experience With You

This is an English listening practice video based around the subject of my glasses and the journey I have had with them throughout my life. Learn new words and expressions for upper-intermediate students of English. I have worn glasses since I was 11 years old. I thought it was normal to see the world as a blur before I got them. I remember how amazing it was to […]

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Social Challenges of Being an Introvert

What it Means to Experience Pain as an Introvert

This video is about I call ‘introvert pain’. Introvert pain relates to feelings of awkwardness in social situations as well as everyday situations. This video is useful for other introverts who may recognize some of these situations and may feel comforted to know other people feel the same way as them. It will also help extroverts realise how introverts feel in certain situations and […]

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