Shy and Introverted in Groups

“Shy and introverted in groups or around people I don’t know, but loud and confident with friends.” Responding to one of your questions and giving tips to build social confidence.

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Updated Thoughts on Mutism

I mainly experience mutism when in a group conversation or when overwhelmed in a foreign language speaking environment. There’s also a third, less predictable way that I become mute and that is to do with certain people. From the first moment when I encounter one of these people, I’m either completely mute or can only say basic words such as ‘hi,’ ‘goodbye’, and ‘thanks.’ Even saying simple words such as these requires a lot […]

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Big Event Anxiety E.g. Going to Weddings

I’ve been invited to a wedding three months from now, and the idea of going to it is already causing anxiety. The inner conflict is between the thought that I *should go* and the feeling that I don’t want to because it will be really hard for me.

I imagine this wedding to be hard for a number of reasons. First, as an introvert, I don’t like these kinds of big events, especially when they are […]

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The Introvert’s Shield

Some musings on introversion, agoraphobia, asperger’s and sensitivity.

It might be that I’m not really an introvert.
It’s because the world and its attractions doesn’t hold much appeal.

It might be that I’m not really a house hermit.
It’s just my aversion to factory farming conditions.

I think that I don’t have asperger’s.
It’s because I confused myself with constantly changing cultures and languages.

I suspect that I wasn’t born rootless and to float from here to there,
I suspect that all […]

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The Airy Mind and the Earthy Body

Guest Post by Nina Lalumia

At least since the time of Aristotle (the fourth century B. C.), the idea that there are four basic elements–earth, water, air and fire–has been an important theme in our culture. Aristotle himself used this idea to understand the physical world. He thought about the four elements much the same way that chemists today understand elements such as hydrogen and carbon. The basic idea is that underlying any […]

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How an INTJ Thinks

A look inside the mind of an INTJ (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, Judgement)…

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The INTJ personality looks at the world by analysing it and breaking it down into patterns. When an INTJ encounters a problem, he or she will apply intuition and reasoning to find a solution. Sometimes this results in breakthrough moments and radical solutions. However, the endless thinking and analysing can also get the INTJ absolutely nowhere.

The thinking self of an INTJ […]

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How INTJs Solve Problems with Their Heads

INTJ PROBLEMS: they can’t all be solved by using your head. Sometimes analysing and finding the reason for ‘why’ something is happening takes you around in circles and keeps you stuck.

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As an INTJ the way I solve problems is to deeply analyse the situation. Even when I have an emotional or health problem the way […]

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Introvert or Asperger’s Traits?

Outlining a few major traits of Asperger’s syndrome. Does this sound like you?

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How to Develop A Powerful Speaking Presence

Guest Post by Ian Luebbers – learn how to build a powerful presence so that when you speak, people listen.


Introverts sometimes get called out for being quiet and still. We speak only when necessary. We focus only on what’s really important. We despise fluff.

Guest who else shares these qualities?

Kings. CEO’s. Leaders. All powerful people possess these qualities in abundance.

So why don’t all introverts appear to posses a deep stillness? It turns out, it […]

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Extreme Shyness and a Blocked Solar Plexus Chakra

This post is based upon personal reflection regarding the third chakra (solar plexus chakra) and the role it plays a role in extreme introversion and shyness.


 

Blocked solar plexus chakra – The third chakra is the seat of one’s personal power and sense of self. When this chakra is open and balanced it allows you to express yourself with confidence and to show your ‘real self’. On the other hand, when this chakra is […]

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Introversion and Spirituality

Guest post by Nina Lalumia

A friend of mine recently said that the perfect example of an introspective introvert is the hermit who withdraws from society into solitude. I want to explain here why I think this is mistaken…

What’s a Hermit?

When I think of hermits, I think of religious or spiritual hermits: for example, a nun or a monk, or a dervish or a certain type of rabbi. In particular, I think of the […]

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Dealing with Emotional Overwhelm: Radical Acceptance

(1) Introverts may experience overwhelm

Some introverts are highly sensitive persons. They may be sensitive to loud noises, bright lights, or large crowds. They may also be empathetic and sensitive to the feelings of other people around them. Their sensitivity may lead introverts to experience overwhelm, and then it may lead them to isolate themselves or seek solitude in some way. In other words, it may lead them to seek the comfort of The […]

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Mad Hermit Woman – Poem

Mad hermit woman

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Introverted Versus Introspective

Guest Post by Nina Lalumia

The Etymology of ‘Introvert’ and ‘Introspective’

Based on its Latin roots, ‘introverted’ means turned to the inside. Lots of words have the same roots in different combinations. ‘INTRO-duce’ means to lead in; and ‘re-VERT’ means to turn back. Similarly, based on its roots, ‘introspective’ means looking inward (compare to ‘retro-SPECTIVE,’ which means looking backward). So, based on their roots, ‘introverted’ and ‘introspective’ seem to mean pretty much […]

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Being Around People Drains Me: Introvert Rule 9

Introvert Energy Drain Rule Number Four – Put You and Your Needs First Socially

To reach the point where you have learnt to manage your energy as an introvert and can avoid getting drained in social actions, you will need to develop a “socially selfish” attitude. If it helps, you can even think of your attempts at managing your energy as a silent game you play with yourself that nobody knows about. You throw politeness and social […]

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