The Empty Feeling of ‘Normal’ Friendship

This post describes the alienating feeling of ‘normal’ friendship from the perspective of someone (me) who scores highly in having traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. It seems to me that the empty feeling of normal friendship is something felt also by a small percentage of people who, unlike me, don’t have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome. I don’t know what to call this other group of people, but I think that we share something in common both in […]

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22 Asperger’s Signs in Adults

A list of classic and more subtle traits of Asperger’s Syndrome in adults:

  1. Misunderstood – most people just don’t get you.
  2. Sensory overwhelm – sometimes your senses are too sharp.
  3. Angry explosion meltdowns – may happen when triggered or feeling trapped.
  4. Crying meltdowns – may happen when overwhelmed.
  5. Silent shutdowns – times when you can’t speak or socialise.
  6. Avoidance – not going places you imagine will be hard for you.
  7. Head person – logical person who thinks and analyses.
  8. Pattern finder – […]
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Learning English Has Turned Me Into a Shy Person – HELP!

Talking about muteness in foreign language situations.

This email is my advice reply to a fan email. The issue is that after a year and a half of studying English abroad in a language school he can still barely speak a word. During this experience his whole personality has changed from confident to shy.

He writes in his email that he was originally shy as a child / young person but he got over it in […]

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Jade, The Alien

Every once in a while, I like to write or make a video about something a bit different; today is one of those days…


For those who don’t already know, I have traits of Asperger’s Syndrome according to this test. I also know this without needing a test on the internet to diagnose me: I can read through a list of the signs and see myself in them. When I […]

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Introvert or Asperger’s Traits?

Outlining a few major traits of Asperger’s syndrome. Does this sound like you?

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Confusing Rejections By People

Yesterday I went to the forest with my boyfriend and a friend. It was still quite early when we arrived which meant was nobody really there, expect for the three of us walking around and exploring the trails. After we had hiked around for a while and had started back in the direction of the car, somebody in the distance started shouting over at us. I didn’t understand what he was shouting in Turkish as […]

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Can Asperger’s Syndrome Be Healed?

If you regularly follow this blog, you may have noticed that I have posted a lot on Asperger’s Syndrome lately. Asperger’s Syndrome interests me because it is a ‘communication disorder’ for which I personally score highly in many traits according to the self-assessment test. Additionally upon self-reflection, I can see myself clearly in many of the traits of Asperger’s, in particular when I was younger.

When I was growing up, Asperger’s Syndrome wasn’t something many people […]

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Interview with Dan From Improve Your Social Skills

Introducing you to Dan from Improve Your Social Skills. Dan is a social skills coach for people overcoming social awkwardness.


QUESTION ONE

Jade: You describe yourself as being the ‘most socially awkward kid’ you could meet when you were growing up. Is this the same thing as being shy? If not, how are shyness and social anxiety different in your opinion?


Dan:
I think there’s a difference between shyness […]

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Asperger’s Traits in Women: About Me

I have not been formally diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. This post lists the traits of Asperger’s Syndrome in women and gives commentary on my personal experience. To view the original, full list of Asperger’s traits in women, CLICK HERE. (I skipped traits that were ambiguous or unclear in my understanding.)


PERSONAL APPEARANCE / HABITS TRAITS

(1) Dresses comfortably due to sensory issues – YES. I pretty much […]

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My Asperger’s Syndrome Quiz Score

At suggestion of fans with Asperger’s Syndrome who read this blog, I decided to take an Asperger’s Syndrome quiz. If you would like to take the test yourself you can do it here.


The questions on the Aspie Quiz cover 4 categories:  neurotypical traits (non-Aspie) , neurodiverse traits (Aspie) , people skills and intellectual skills. For each question you have to choose whether a specific trait […]

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Everyday Ways People Hurt and Confuse You In Life

I have learned that people may act in confusing and hurtful ways. Here are some ‘small’ confusing things I have experienced that hurt me more than you might imagine…


(1) Invited to Get in Touch – Then Blanked – One day I was walking my mum’s dog when an old family friend stopped me in the street. When I was a child we used to go on holiday together. She seemed really happy to […]

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The Star People

Something a bit different: a sci-fi story about what it feels like to be me…


She and the others like her came because they had loved the humans from the beginning. Of course, all who agreed to come were warned about the dangers of the process but nobody could have known that it was going to be much, much harder than anticipated. In particular, they were not aware that they were going to be […]

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Mad Hermit Woman – Poem

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Seductive Cave – A Poem

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How to Speak More in Class

Shy to speak in class? Here’s what to do…

I am filming this video outside to show the process of pushing through the fear of speaking up in public. I challenged myself to film in noisy, ‘ugly’ environments which you don’t normally see in my videos. I also film inside in a shopping centre, which made me feel particularly nervous.

The Six Steps to Speak More in Class…

Step One: Choose your position.

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